All I can say, is that if after almost 7 pages we dont have a CLEAR and SIMPLE answer...
...Sean, can you point us to a website that might have a picture of such a device. It helps when you go to the borg if you kinda have an idea of what you are looking for as they don't always understand what you are talking about.
...2. I install a transfer switch that switches both hots (but not neutral) from utility to generator i.e. the generator and utility can't both be on at the same time.
... telling anyone here how to do it could create a very dangerous situation if they do it wrong and they believe you told them how to do it it. It could come back to haunt you.
That said, I do question the safety of keeping the Bus/RV generator neutrals bonded to the Bus chassis when connected to a home electrical system. If the gen is grounded to the Bus chassis along with the neutral, and the home electrical neutral is bonded to the ground rod in the earth at the main panel, under the right conditions it would seem your body could become a conduit if there is any potential between the Bus neutral and the ground rod.
...I respect your decision to get a proper backup generator so you can protect your $800 investment in transfer gear. It is ultimately a safer solution anyway...
...That said, I do question the safety of keeping the Bus/RV generator neutrals bonded to the Bus chassis when connected to a home electrical system. If the gen is grounded to the Bus chassis along with the neutral, and the home electrical neutral is bonded to the ground rod in the earth at the main panel, under the right conditions it would seem your body could become a conduit if there is any potential between the Bus neutral and the ground rod...
...unbonding the generator in the coach has its own dangers (and is against code), which is why I keep coming back to making the proper changes at the house end instead...